What’s up?
What’s up?
In this article I want to describe not
functional situations for our relationships, leaving for another one tips to
solve these problems and generate healthy behavior in the social environment.
All that I describe here is a daily observation of messaging, focused on social
groups, leaving outside a lot of situations of the work environment.
I will describe only 3 frequent situations:
1-High frequency of social communications
2-The impulsive messaging
3-The impact within the IRL people environment
1-High frequency of social communications
In real life, it's not probably you talk or
have a meeting every day with a friend or a group of friends, and it`s even
less possible to do it several times in the same day.
But if you use messaging you probably send and receive daily messages of
several friends
This situation, in one hand, makes you feel close and with an everyday company,
but in the other hand, you suffer a great personal exposure that the experience
usually shows that could generate progressively erasure of your relationships
and even loneliness.
Why?
-Because in the daily messaging your words
increase the possibility of misunderstanding.
-In real life when you have a meeting with
your friend or a group of friends you first coordinate a convenient moment and
space, and you concentrate on that in real-time conversation but in messaging
it's probably you do it inconvenient and not convenient moments, in the middle
of a lot of others social and networking message
-Your attention is unfocused and your
emotions may be in constant change.
-This high exposure and the requirement of
answer a lot of messages (on occasion more than one hundred a day) make very
difficult the quality of your communication
2- The impulsive messaging
Messaging facilitates you express, and sends
impulsive messages, you easily than ever can express your emotions of the
moment. Not always this is clearly understood or received by other
people.
It is possible that people not reply
immediately or not reply at all. That silence usually generates anxiety,
you don't know if others hadn`t the occasion to reply or didn`t wants to be
involved in impulsive messages. This situation creates unpredictable emotions
in you and the other persons.
In real life, you can express your emotions
in real-time, with your voice, your face and all your body language, and you
have an immediate reply, even in the silence, because the body always replies.
In real life, you have the environment to
select what to say, how to say it, and what not to say.
That`s because you have immediate feedback
for what you are saying, so you can regulate and adapt your message to your
interlocutor.
In the messaging groups increases the
illusion of missing out, and this another reason for anxiety and unpredictable
emotions.
Probably effects:
· Anxiety
· Unpredictable emotions
· Misunderstanding
3- The impact on the IRL people environment
The online communication produces you
are in several spaces at the same time, but it is IRL who suffers the real
impact.
It is usual that in relaxing moments you are beside people you love, but both
take a lot of time messaging, so your IRL environment loses quality
conversation.
It is a real situation that could make
distance with whom are beside you, living with you, and waiting for you. Even
kids or people of all age suffer a similar situation.
Probably effects:
· Worse
relationship with your familiar environment
· To be
required at the same time for face to face environment and the online
environment
· Social
stress
Conclusions
Let`s take the control of our lives and enjoy
technology at the service your wellbeing.
We are learning, we are choosing what kind of
future we want to live...
Let`s create a healthy future, the first step
is right now.
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